10 Things We’ve Learned from Parenting our Adopted Child(ren)

We are 5 weeks into full-blown parenthood, and our brains are finally functioning at about 70%, so we figured it is time to post an update. We’ll keep it short and sweet and itemized.

  1. Never assume that a child of any age already knows how to properly use toilet paper.
  2. It isn’t easy to teach a child the skills needed to calm down when your last nerve snapped an hour ago.
  3. The terrible twos can happen at any age.
  4. It’s always a good time to dance around naked when you’re 6 years old.
  5. Poop jokes are universally hilarious (We may have already known this).
  6. Socks and closed toed shoes are torture devices begotten by the bogey man.
  7. We should have thought more carefully about the first words we taught our child. Let’s just say Jason jokingly taught “kick-u” and “punch-u” instead of kick and punch, and James continues to use them most often.
  8. Overhearing your child quietly praying independently for the first time is shocking and encouraging. “Thank you, God. Food, cat, James, Amen.” Thank you, God, indeed.
  9. You will never ever again have to wonder “Gee, what are the cats doing?” Your child will give you comprehensive play by plays that would make any sportscaster hand in their letter of resignation.
  10. It is difficult to remember that the angry, defiant child is actually a sad/scared/confused child who knows no other way to express himself and requires comfort instead of punishment. This is completely against our nature, but responding properly has beautiful results.

Bonus: Chicka Chicka Boom Boom may have been penned by the devil (Not really, but amIright? “Flip flop flee?”).

We read several adoptive parenting books before diving in, and they prepared us for (or at least made us aware of) quite a few of the adoption related behaviors and milestones that potentially await(ed) us.

Is there anything that you would add to the list?






5 thoughts on “10 Things We’ve Learned from Parenting our Adopted Child(ren)

  1. Lynn Corbin June 6, 2014 / 02:25

    Love your updates! No words of wisdom yet (ha!) but we’re praying for you guys. Hugs! 🙂

    • camorlinga June 6, 2014 / 03:01

      I’ve been checking your blog, Lynn. Praying for an update so you will have some words to share 🙂

  2. Kerry June 6, 2014 / 14:35

    Weeeee! I love the spectrum and candor in this.

    P.S. Poop jokes ARE universally hilarious, particularly ones about pooping while standing up.
    P.P.S. Don’t approve this to be posted…

  3. Gail Klemm June 10, 2014 / 04:00

    Your list made me smile…especially the independent prayer. And number 10 is something I think about a lot. We adopted an infant, which is far different from a child with 6-7 years of experiences, good and bad. Our only language “barrier” was the usual toddler gibberish, beginning with “Mommy?” followed by long strings of what were words, and inflections to our daughter, but known only to her! (Remember the intense desire of toddlers to communicate, I imagine the desire of James to express himself and to be understood is extreme…he will be motivated, and of course, frustrated. But it all sounds as if you have a good grip! (Remember, all parents want to shut themselves in a closet or bathroom just for a little quiet time! ) Love to all of you!

  4. Gail Klemm June 10, 2014 / 04:02

    (Meant to say “remembering”…

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